7 weeks 3 days…

I haven’t written for ages so thought it was about time I did! I hope to use this blog as a diary of sorts in future, so really need to keep it updated!

So we are officially actually pregnant.  Like with an actual baby and everything! I’m still extremely nervous and always thinking the worst as I seem to only surround myself with terrible stories.

We had our scan last Thursday at 6 weeks 5 days.  It was brought forward slightly as I experienced a lot of period type pains in my first few weeks and started to really worry.  Then, the night before the new scan time, I started to spot brown blood so of course completely freaked out and thought that was the end.  I called my parents (who are medical) and they also jumped to the worst conclusion too!  So I had a very scary negative night before the scan I must say!

The day of the scan I was SO scared.  I don’t think I have ever felt more nervous.  I think I was more nervous than when I fly! I just thought we would get there and the pregnancy either would be ectopic, too small, no heartbeat or a figment of my imagination!  But it was none of those!! It was perfect – measuring correctly, heartbeat really obvious and in the right place.  The nurse who did the ultrasound was actually who did the transfer and she was so happy with the result!  She actually seemed a little emotional.  If this pregnancy continues and we get a healthy baby at the end, she will certainly be getting a present!

We have now graduated from the clinic and under NHS care.  I have a midwife appointment next week on 11th June and the next scan will be at 12 weeks.  I am going away for the weekend on 22nd June when I will be 10 weeks, and ideally want to have a scan before I go, so am going to pay for a private scan to make sure everything is ok.

Symptoms wise, I have had quite a lot of nausea since the scan particularly but can ward it off a little with food I’ve found.  I have the biggest food aversions and things I might have liked last week I now can’t even think about without feeling really sick! It’s quite annoying as I don’t know what to eat each night for dinner and can only gauge it by thinking of different food and if I feel like I want to throw up.  I’m also absolutely knackered and really finding it hard to have any energy at work.  Also, my stomach doesn’t seem to be able to go flat(ish) any longer.  I don’t think I have a bump as the baby is the size of a blueberry, but think the uterus is maybe pushing out a little more.  Basically I can’t hide my layer of fat on my stomach any more!  Oh yeh, my boobs hurt.  Not really badly – they’ve definitely hurt more before my period but they are there for sure.  Also, they are much bigger and veiny but I don’t feel I need to buy a new bra yet.

I have had a lot of sharp pain today that have made me worry but hoping it’s just the stretching and growing going on in there.  I have also had quiet a lot of dizziness and feeling feint.  It’s all such a magical time! To be honest, I’ll take anything to make sure it’s healthy and gets here ok 🙂

5 weeks and 1 day…

I have hit lots of my own milestones this week- official test day, hitting 3+ on the clear blue digitals and finally getting some symptoms. It doesn’t stop me worrying massively still.

Just quickly – how amazing was the royal wedding yesterday? Loved it!!

I managed to get the 3+ on clear blue yesterday and have decided to stop testing. I’m not sure what it will achieve now and what will be will be. I have also booked my first 7 week scan for 4th June. Another 2ww…

Symptoms:

– cold symptoms since yesterday

– still lots of back ache and feeling loose

– af and sharp little pains

– so spotty- my face is horrendous!

– boobs started hurting yesterday

– tired!

– hungry but not massively sure what to eat

I’ve been eating a lot of chocolate and don’t want to be a big fat prego so have decided to really look after myself and improve my diet. More fruit and veg and less chocolate!!

I have been loving finding new non alcohol beer too. I feel like I’ve gotten pregnant when a lot of companies have decided to start making great non alcoholic beers! It makes you feel like you’re not missing out.

I’m still so worried and scared. I really hope this one sticks around. I need to get to that first scan!

13dp14dt…hanging in there…

Yesterday I saw the strongest positive I’ve ever seen in my life! It was very timely as I have been petrified of having a chemical again.  Last time I had good positives (or I thought were good positives until I saw these ones!) but they started getting lighter at 12dp5dt and on 13dp5dt I got such a light positive I did a digital and came out as ‘not pregnant’ which was a shock after seeing the words ‘1-2 weeks’ a couple of days before.  So yesterday and today have been the days I’ve been dreading and thankfully the tests have been getting stronger and stronger – and as you can see, the test line was stronger than the control line yesterday! I did do a cheapie this morning just to make sure it’s still there (yes I’ve gone mad!), and it was very positive and dark so I’m happy…for now!

I’m finding it very hard to relax and enjoy this experience as I am literally just waiting for it to go wrong.  But I also do have something in the back of my head saying it’s the one this time…oh god I hope so!  I’ve been asked a couple of times weirdly when my due date would be.  I haven’t worked this out!! I’ve been concentrating on getting past my official test date which is tomorrow, and not thinking that far into the future.  I stupidly did that last time and look where that got me.  Anyway, I do kind of know – it’s January sometime.  I’m not going to properly work it out until I need to, and when I have had a scan at least.

I follow a lot of people on social media, and although it’s lovely to share journeys with each other, it really is sad to see all of those pregnancies that go wrong.  Life isn’t fair.  It also makes me not get too ahead of myself.

So official test date tomorrow.  Ironically I’ve run out of tests! I’ve ordered some from Amazon but they won’t be arriving until later.  I might need to just grab a cheapie today to do tomorrow to officially tell them it’s all going ok.  Then we get to book the scan! What?!!!! I’m not sure whether they do this at 6 or 7 weeks, but I think it will be in a couple of weeks or so.

Work has been an absolute nightmare the last week since I’ve come back.  I’m in recruitment and a lot has gone wrong, as it often does, and had lots of very annoying and frustrating conversations internally and with clients over different matters.  I think my hormones aren’t helping here though – for example, our admin assistance at work told me she didn’t have time to do my work as she was doing everyone else’s.  Well I kicked off! I’ve had a couple of naughty law firms trying to screw me over on fees too which hasn’t gone down too well.  I’m just trying to chill and realise it’s a job and not to take it too seriously – I want a baby more than a job!

Symptoms wise – it’s pretty quiet to be honest.  My boobs have got a couple more veins but not loads.  They look no bigger, and have had a little bit of pain but nothing like I’ve felt before.  I did have itchy boobs earlier so I’m not sure whether that’s something.  I am getting frustrated quite easily, like PMT feelings.  It’s weird as I didn’t have that at all with the IVF drugs.  I’ve also been a bit annoying with my husband – he can’t do anything right, but I feel like he’s doing things specifically to annoy me!! I’m sure he’s being absolutely the same but I can’t see that.  He is good in some ways as he does do a lot of washing and cooking.  He gets home a lot earlier than me so he has a lot more time than me, which I find highly annoying! Also he has decided to find a passion in his bike that he never had before – I think just to get away from me.  I just feel a little lonely in the process as I’m the one who has to take all the drugs, remember to take the drugs, inject myself with horrible Clexane (which I’m developing a fear of) and worry about what’s going on with this pregnancy.  I can’t get away! I’m stuck in my body while he gets to escape and not have to do anything horrible to his body.  Rant over!  Poor man living with me!

My biggest symptom at the moment has to be utter exhaustion.  I have heard this is pretty normal and the tiredness at the beginning of pregnancy is overwhelming, but I’m really struggling with it and keeping my job and life going slightly! Who knows what’s going to happen when morning sickness joins the party!  Onto official test date we go….

The truth about IVF

I’m now 11dp5dt and everything is still very much the same as yesterday.  I haven’t tested today but not had any signs that it’s gone wrong yet and still holding out to test on 14dp5dt as my official test date.  It will then be another 2 week wait for the 7 weeks scan…it’s all waiting!  So I wanted to use this opportunity, whilst I’m in the midst of a cycle, to hopefully tell you some truths about IVF.

As I mentioned before, I got really scared when I heard we would have to do IVF as I had reacted quite badly to the pill and the morning after pill previously and had also heard some very scary stories about IVF.

  1. You know nothing about IVF until you go through it – this is my first truth!
    Before I started IVF I thought I knew what it was about, but I really didn’t! I hadn’t a clue.  I had heard stories from the media or acquaintances who has been through it and who said ‘you go mad’ on the drugs, or injecting yourself is just awful etc.  It made me SO scared before I started and could have easily put me off altogether to be honest.  But you will never understand the enormity of IVF until you do it, and also the many myths that accompany it.  Please don’t listen to anyone else, it’s not that bad.  Especially don’t read into everything on the internet as it seems only people with negative experiences ever write anything (and that’s what I’m trying to change!).
  2. IVF drugs are nothing like the pill or morning after pill
    I have realised there’s absolutely no correlation between not suiting the pill and IVF treatment or actually pregnancy hormones for that matter! I went on the pill when I was younger and on one that I took, actually felt quite suicidal.  I quickly came off that.  I also took the morning after pill a couple of times in my life and have had very bad anxiety attacks after each.  With this in mind, you can see why I was petrified of the IVF hormones!  Well, I have had absolutely no reaction to the hormones given to me in IVF.  The only reaction I’ve had was when I came off the hormones the first time as I think my body went into a bit of shock.  I have had friends who have reacted to the hormones with IVF but haven’t had reactions with the pill.  It’s all very odd.  Also, having no reaction to the hormones used in IVF does not mean you won’t react to pregnancy hormones judging by my mood today!
  3. Injections don’t hurt (unless they’re Clexane)
    I watched a really good film the other day called ‘One Last Shot’ on Netflix all about a couple’s journey with IVF.  It was brilliantly shot and really did show the truth about the experience of IVF.  The only thing that annoyed me was all the faces and noises pulled when the lady was doing her injections! THEY DON’T HURT! Stop making people scared of injecting themselves.  The needles used are small and you inject subcutaneously, so into fat basically!  The only exception to this is the progesterone injections they seem to do in America that we don’t do over here – they look hideous with a big needle and into muscle, and the Clexane injections I’m doing at the moment that are quite hard to get into the skin as the needle is bigger, it feels like a bee has stung you afterwards for about 5 mins and leaves some crappy bruises!
  4. You can still live a normal life
    I’ve managed to continue working whilst doing most of the IVF process.  I’ve continued to do yoga and get on with life basically whilst down regging and stimming.  The only time I’ve changed my life is post transfer where I usually take a few days off work, mainly because I find work stressful and frustrating – not a good combo for when you’re trying to be relaxed.  Actually this time, I went straight to a hen do after transfer and didn’t really rest except on the long train ride!
  5. Sometimes it doesn’t work!
    People don’t tell you this! When you start IVF it’s usually after a long time of trying to get pregnant without success, so you think IVF is the last resort and often the answer to your prayers.  Well it’s not always! I have a friend who’s IVF worked first time and that’s amazing, but I think she might be the only one I’ve heard of! Be prepared for a long journey.  I’m not trying to be pessimistic, but no one was realistic with me and it was hard and quite shocking to me when it didn’t work the first time.
  6. Sometimes it does…
    I still can’t get excited this time.  I keep thinking maybe I will once I get past my clinic’s official test date on Thursday (17th May), or maybe after the first scan, or maybe after the 12 week scan, or maybe at 20 weeks.  Who knows.  It’s so easy to cloud this whole experience with what ifs and thinking negatively.  I now need to teach myself how to be more positive!

10dp5dt

Today I finally saw the words ‘pregnant 2-3’! I can’t believe it! I’m still not counting my chickens though and so aware of EVERYTHING that could go wrong. But I also do need to enjoy this time too.

Symptoms so far are very few and far between. Much less than when I had my chemical which is odd. Today I have been extremely tired like exhausted! I still have a weird feeling on the lower left side of my abdomen and really hoping that doesn’t mean ectopic. I don’t really have a lot of boob pain at all, and they don’t look any different at all. Last time they were huge!!

Let’s just hope it sticks…

7dp5dt

Well I didn’t stick to the plan at all and ended up testing on 6dp5dt…And it’s positive! I’m not feeling any of the elation I did last time however, mainly because last time ended so badly. So so badly.

I’ve promised myself I won’t be testing every day, looking to see if the tests are getting darker or anything like that. I’m going to do one around Saturday I think which would be period day, and if we’re still hanging on, will test again this time next week at 2 weeks past transfer or OTD for my clinic.

Symptoms wise I think I’ve actually had more than before – some nausea today, feeling some weird pains in my boobs this evening, loads of cramping, smells are becoming more apparent. So maybe this is different!

I will keep you updated, but for now…

5dp5dt

I thought I better start documenting my symptoms as I go. I have purposely distracted myself this time round with attending a hen do immediately after the transfer, a May Day Fayre on Monday and a Thai cooking course today! I’m 5 days past 5 day transfer or 5dp5dt and I’ve barely noticed. This time I did not relax, I didn’t eat any of the things I usually strictly would (like pineapple and avocado etc), haven’t stuck to any rules like keeping my feet warm or anything. 4th cycle means relaxed cycle I think!

Symptom wise I haven’t had much at all. I had a few niggling pains in my lower left abdomen on a off when travelling to the hen do, had a headache for the last two days, and started needing to pee I the early hours again as I had before. I’m really tired in the afternoon too. But apart from that, nothing! No sore boobs at all!

I have promised not to test until Friday (8dp5dt) so let’s see what happens….